Book a call

Intuition vs. Non-Intuitive Thoughts

decisions getting unstuck intuition life coaching Aug 31, 2021

Intuition vs. Non-Intuitive Thoughts

We all have intuition that knows the truth and can guide us through life.  It’s our inner guidance system. It always knows the truth and we can tap into it to help solve our problems and make decisions.  When I work with people and coach them on learning to listen to their intuition, there are two main reasons that they do not follow their intuition.

1. They don’t know how to distinguish intuition from all the noise and thoughts that are not intuition.

2. They can hear the voice of intuition but want the answer to be different than what their gut tells them.

There is usually some fear, anxiety, trauma triggers or thoughts that are blocking them from hearing the voice of their intuition OR they are mistaking the fear, anxiety, trauma triggers and thoughts as the voice of their intuition.  

If you want to start developing your intuition so you can trust your gut, there are several steps you can take.

 First, learn what’s NOT intuition, because this can be noisy and confusing: 

Not intuition:

Impulsive, knee-jerk reactions

Stress response/fight or flight reactions

Thoughts, beliefs, or assumptions based on past fears or traumas

Racing, anxious thoughts


Analyzing, trying to figure it out

Judgment, doubt, worry

Fear, anxiety, guilt, or depression


 Non-intuitive thoughts are fearful, agitated, and come from the lower survival part of the brain. 


Calm clarity

Short and to the point

Sense of knowing and understanding



Feels peaceful 

Intuition is calm and peaceful and comes from the higher parts of the brain.

Learning to tap into your intuition is a skill that takes practice. Learning the skill of self-regulation will help you calm your body and brain and allow you to get into the state of calm that is required to hear your intuition.

The lower survival parts of our brain can be triggered when we are stressed or feeling uncertain.  This activates our stress response system, or our “fight or flight.”  When our stress response is activated, we are “dysregulated” and we lose access to the higher parts of our brain, which require calm to function at their best.  We need to be in this state of calm to hear our intuition. 

If you are dysregulated, it will be harder to distinguish intuition from the thoughts and anxious fears that are running wild inside your mind.

Learning How to Self-Regulate: 

Find out what’s calming for you.  It can be different for everyone, but the following activities can be a good way to start.

  • Walking
  • Doodling/drawing
  • Being in nature
  • Being in water
  • Walking side-by-side with a calm “regulated” person
  • Rhythmic activities, or anything that would sooth a baby:
    • Music
    • Rocking chair
    • Dancing

How to Tap Into Your Intuition When you want to know the answer:

Once you have learned how to calm your brain and body, the next steps are to:

  • Get quiet
  • Ask your intuition the question you want it to answer.
  • The answer will come as a calm and quiet feeling or sense. 

What happens when we ignore our intuition or “go against our gut?”

Most people do recognize their calm inner voice of intuition.  Often, we ignore it because we don’t like the answer it is giving us, and this can make us feel confusion. The voice of fear and anxiety can be so much louder than the voice of intuition, so we often default to the noisy, non-intuitive thoughts simply because they tend to grab our attention first.  We are also more used to letting them dominate our minds.

When we look back at regrets or “mistakes” that we have made, there was usually some part of us that knew we were going against our intuition.  In fact, when I ask people about life issues or situations that they regret, they usually say that their gut told them something was off, but they ignored it.

Have you ever gone against your intuition? If so, what happened?

The most common reasons for going against intuition are:

  • We don’t think we can trust the intuitive voice because it is clouded by doubt, worry, fear and the advice of others. (Or the noisy fear voice is so loud it is the only voice we can hear).
  • We want the answer to be different than what our intuition is telling us.

Have you ever sensed something was off?  For example, have you ever ignored red flags early in a relationship because you wanted it to turn out a certain way? And then when the truth came out, you could looked back and clearly see the signs. Maybe you ignored your intuition it because you didn’t want to face the painful truth.

Sometimes we ignore our intuition to avoid pain. Sometimes we ignore our intuition because we want something so badly that we refuse to believe signs that point us in a different direction. When we avoid truth to avoid pain, we delay joy.  Because the truth always leads us to our highest good.


This takes practice. Don’t be afraid if you feel confused for a while as you get used to tapping into your intuition. Start small and build up.  It can take time to get comfortable with living in a more intuitive way, but it will transform your life. 

If you would like to find out how I can help you get unstuck, listen to your intuition, and transform your life, email me at [email protected] to set up a free consultation.


If you would like to learn more about the brain, the stress response, and self-regulation, read my book Creating Calm: How Understanding the Brain Can Transform Stressful Situations into Peaceful Connections for Educators and Parents.

Do you want to find clarity and organize your life? Download a free copy of my first book, Organize Your Life: How to Find Clarity From Within by clicking below:

Download Now

Stay connected with news and updates!

Join my mailing list to receive the latest news and updates.

We hate SPAM. We will never sell your information, for any reason.